How Fear Rewires Our Reality
A person who fears abandonment sees the world very differently from someone who doesn't carry this fear. This isn't imagination — it's how our brain works. > "If a person enters with worry already there, searching for snakes — this is avoidance behaviour" — our brain learns to see danger everywhere, even where it doesn't exist.
The brain works like a computer: it doesn't reason about what's good or bad. It takes your past fears and your feelings, then shows you the world through that lens. If you were rejected or abandoned once, your brain now constantly searches for the next rejection.